Ironic?

[CR55]

Sorry to take up valuable space on RRR. As some of you know my birthday was last Saturday, 57 years old, where did the time go?. I have been enrolled in a major university to obtain a degree, something that was suggested by my wife and mutually agreeable with me.She informs me last night that she wants us to split up, and not to come home! A big kick right in the face! Stayed up all night last night, too old for that!.When I met her I owned a 4 year old home that I built on an acre plus of ground, free and clear, no mortgage! She had come from another divorce and her home was being foreclosed on. She literally came with nothing. Now I'm leaving with nothing and she has everything in our newer home that I built also. How Ironic, Huh?
. I am left here with no money and no job! Sorry to rant and rave,I just need to vent[S...CR

 

[Arkansawer]

i wouldve went home. If thats a house you built, no way that id be staying out. If its her choice to split up, then she should be the one leaving. Yup, i wouldve went straight home and slept in the bed i bought.

But thats just me, and im a butt hole like that.

Sorry to hear the news though, that does suck big time.

 

[CR55]

Last time this happened, I got to spend the night with the cops! I don't do that anymore.

 

[AEROCOLOR]

Just goes to show you can be blindsided no matter how long the relationship has existed. If she is working then you need to ask for alimony. Get a good lawyer that has a successful track record and take back what`s yours. Otherwise console her until you`re able to return the favor. Calm planning is much better than anger at this point. Don`t get mad... get even. Counseling??

 

[earthman]

I agree with Aerocolor completely. If it's over then it's just business now.
Get a good lawyer and make him earn his pay. Sorry to hear this CR.

 

[AEROCOLOR]

Also if you have been away for some time then an investigator might be able to explain the sudden change of heart. Good ammo in court...IF that`s possibly the case. It was on my first marriage. I think I had a pool boy but didn`t own a pool. He was servicing something..LOL

 

[anvil]

That bites big time sorry to here of your loss. I hope
you find your way threw this It does get better in time

 

[fuzz]

Sorry to hear this CR...we'll be praying for you and I agree with the others, see a "good" lawyer right away!

 

[shotupdave]

Don't let her kick you out of your place. If she wants the separation, let her be the one to mov out. I can guarantee you that there is someone else involved.

Three years ago I had the same BS happen to me. My ex came back from a 2 week business trip and the first thing out of her mouth was we were no longer be together. WE were living in my house ans she ask me how long would it take me to get my things out of there. I looked at her and say no (fill it the blank) way. You can move in with your parents until you can get the renters out of her old house. I was not going to move out of my place with all of my toys into some Sh%^& place. Three months to the day after we were divorced, she got re-married to an unemployed plumber.

I found out through her brother that she bought this loser a brand new Harley before they were married and for his wedding gift a 2007 Mustang. Then she had the balls to ask me for a 30K. I bet you all can guess my answer to that.

Sorry for all the ranting but this kind of stuff just really fries me.

 

[hotrod preacher]

sorry to hear the news CR! that is a sad state of affairs for sure! i don't really have any more wisdom/advice to add, but wanted to encourage you to listen to what's already been said.....

1. see what the deal is w/her...reasons etc.
2. if reconcilliation is not an option..find a good lawyer
3. always remember that you're not the 1st& won't be the last to have it happen...so look to others that have been there for help, and remember those who'll follow you and help them, too

(not to sound "unreligious" but i'd be wanting my house back, too!!)

HRP

 

[shakey56]

So sorry CR. The only thing I would add is don't get a "good" lawyer, get the best you can find. That usually means the most expensive.....but if you are going to war, take the biggest gun you can get. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Lynn

 

[CR55]

Thanks for the advice Guys. I can always count on RRR to make my day a little brighter!.[cl There is definately no one else, I know that for a fact, don't care anyway. I've been down this road with her before, it has always worked itself out, but I don't want it to work out now, I've had enough. This isn't the first time I've been down, I'll come back up. It just might take a while, but I'll do it! She can have the house, we owe waaaaaaay more on it than it's worth, we can't afford to sell it, we'd lose money. I still have a young son of mine in the house and my 18 year old stepdaughter who I've raised since she was crawling, I feel as though she's mine and she feels the same way. I don't want anything bad to happen to either of them. I have the capability to make my own way in the world. I've had my own business since I was 22 years old. I stopped building and any type of construction for the past 3 years. Time to get back in the swing! I have a 33 year old son who's in the same boat as me right now and this allows he and I to pick up where we left off a few years ago. He's looking forward to this too. So thanks for listening to me rant, I needed that! I'm done now, time to get on with life. It's too short to do a whole lot of complaining. I'm certain that RRR isn't the place to do that..Sorry to have been such a bummer!..

 

[Sam_Fear]

Yea man, stand tall and good luck. That's a hard road your headed down.

 

[earthman]

It's not always just fun and games CR. Sometimes it's good to share the load and RRR has done it before for members here. Won't be the last time. Sounds like you are hittin' the ground running and will be making a better life for yourself.