something to think about

[26Troadster]

i have a friend that i lost touch with about 26 years ago, we got to visit last july, and was trying to plan a trip home to texas for family and was looking forward to trying to visit again, saturday about noon i got a phone call he had passed in his sleep (the way all of us want to go) he was 51 years old. the worst part is i'm not going to be able to make it out there for his wife are the family. so be sure to call your old friends and family you never know when their not going to be there anymore. i know you always hear this but it is true tomorrow could be the day for you are them.

 

[donsrods]

You are so right. I had a good friend who was always there for me and helped get me through the rough period during my divorce. I met a new lady and as things go we get so involved with those relationships we don't get to spend much time with our friends as we once did. He would call me to go out for a beer and sometimes my GF had other plans for us, so I would beg off.

She and I went on vacation and when we got back I learned he had a major heart attack and died. It still haunts me to this day that I didn't get to see him much during the last couple of years of his life, or before he passed.

You never know what tomorrow will bring.

Don

 

[HOT40ROD]

I feel your pain.

I had an old fishing buddy that I lost contact with. One day I came across him and talk about going fishing again. Well it never happen. Three nights later he went to bed and never woke up. He was 46.

 

[oldmanb]

Life sucks when this happens, but most of the time we don't have the choice when someone dies, or is killed accidently.
With every death from a family member of mine,(my only child at an early age,18 years ago,my mom,my dad, my younger brother,and many close friends).
,I've learned much about how important people are in my life.
Draw from your good memories,that'll help get you through, and let go, try not to dwell on the past too much,but never forget what strength they gave you.
Brian

 

[donsrods]

Another strange thing about life is, we only seem to get together with friends and relatives at Weddings and Funerals.


Don

 

[sgtpontiac]

Sorry for the loss of your friend 26t... lost a few lately myself...

Took my wife to the Hospital Friday with Chest pains and all the symtoms of a heart attack......Scared the heck out of me..... was at work and my son called to tell me mom was having chest pains, shortness of breath and pain radiating down her left arm and leg..... she refused to go by ambulance so I came home with the patrol car and drove her down there lights and all.... she was ****ed off at me.... at least I had the AED in the car in case something happened.... she know understands why I wanted her to go by ambulance.....
Not sure what caused it... heart cath showed no blockage and the ekg and blood work showed nothing.... I told her stress and lack of sleep, so did the doctor.... we've had a bit of stress lately with my in-laws and their health and my son's fiance just left him after 4 years so things have been stressed a bit.... only thing I was thinking was "what the heck am I going to do without her?"... after 32 years I'm not sure what I'd do.... Praise God she is ok.... as much as I complain, I love the woman to death.....

 

[CR55]

Wife just went for a mammogram this morning and they found two tumors that will need a biopsy to determine what type they are. Hopefully they are benign. Prayers will be very much appreciated!


Lost a good friend two weeks ago he passed from a lung disease attributed to smoking. He was 58. We've known each other since we were 14......CR

 

[sgtpontiac]

My prayers go out to the wife....

Wife just went for a mammogram this morning and they found two tumors that will need a biopsy to determine what type they are. Hopefully they are benign. Prayers will be very much appreciated!


Lost a good friend two weeks ago he passed from a lung disease attributed to smoking. He was 58. We've known each other since we were 14......CR

My wife has had 3 lumps removed from her breasts.. thank God they were benign.... My best to the little lady and my prayers are with you both.....God bless....

 

[shakey56]

Friends

Even tho we are a big tough guys, don't hesitate to tell your friends how much you care about them. I've lost many that I wish I had told. Now, I do......BEFORE they're gone.

Lynn

 

[donsrods]

Wife just went for a mammogram this morning and they found two tumors that will need a biopsy to determine what type they are. Hopefully they are benign. Prayers will be very much appreciated!


Lost a good friend two weeks ago he passed from a lung disease attributed to smoking. He was 58. We've known each other since we were 14......CR

I wish your wife well. My ex just had a similar scare, shadow turned out to be a lymph node that dropped down, so nothing serious. Hope your wife has the same outcome..........please keep us posted.

As for your friend, you have no idea how much I hate cigarettes. The companies that make those things need to get a grip and stop hooking new victims all the time.

Don

 

[King Herald]

i have a friend that i lost touch with about 26 years ago, we got to visit last july, and was trying to plan a trip home to texas for family and was looking forward to trying to visit again, saturday about noon i got a phone call he had passed in his sleep (the way all of us want to go) he was 51 years old. the worst part is i'm not going to be able to make it out there for his wife are the family. so be sure to call your old friends and family you never know when their not going to be there anymore. i know you always hear this but it is true tomorrow could be the day for you are them.

I had a similar tragedy with an old friend I lost touch with in the mid 80's. 20 years later we hooked up again and got on real well, about as close to a 'best friend' as I could ever say I had, and I'm not a people person. We hung out for a couple of years off and on, as he lived some miles away, and we swapped BS stories and talked about cars and bikes and engineering and stuff for hours. Just like the old days when we were younger and faster.

We got the phone call one sunny Sunday morning, 7-7-07, as we were just leaving the house to take my daughter to her 7th birthday party; He'd died of a massive heart attack the previous afternoon, at just 47. I was gutted, far more than I expected, but managed to keep it together through my daughters little party with all her friends there, and their parents.

I never got to say my goodbyes, never got to the funeral, never had any closure, as I flew out offshore the following day. I drove my hot rod round to his house that evening, but there was nobody there, just a simple wreath on the front lawn.

Sorry for hijacking the thread, but this has bugged me for four years now and that date comes up soon.

 

[26Troadster]

cr i hope and pray that your wife comes through with no problems. king that is what this thread is about, is to release, we all need it at times, i like to belive that they know, but still like to be able to tell the family and friends how i feel.

 

[sgtpontiac]

No need to be sorry.....

I had a similar tragedy with an old friend I lost touch with in the mid 80's. 20 years later we hooked up again and got on real well, about as close to a 'best friend' as I could ever say I had, and I'm not a people person. We hung out for a couple of years off and on, as he lived some miles away, and we swapped BS stories and talked about cars and bikes and engineering and stuff for hours. Just like the old days when we were younger and faster.

We got the phone call one sunny Sunday morning, 7-7-07, as we were just leaving the house to take my daughter to her 7th birthday party; He'd died of a massive heart attack the previous afternoon, at just 47. I was gutted, far more than I expected, but managed to keep it together through my daughters little party with all her friends there, and their parents.

I never got to say my goodbyes, never got to the funeral, never had any closure, as I flew out offshore the following day. I drove my hot rod round to his house that evening, but there was nobody there, just a simple wreath on the front lawn.

Sorry for hijacking the thread, but this has bugged me for four years now and that date comes up soon.

I think all of us have been or will be there too.... never an easy thing to say goodbye to someone you care about.... not sure what you believe but I like to believe that your buddy knew you cared.... don't have to attend a funeral or even say goodbye....he knew... that's all that matters.... the fact you always remember his passing is tribute enough..... he knew...

 

[King Herald]

I think all of us have been or will be there too.... never an easy thing to say goodbye to someone you care about.... not sure what you believe but I like to believe that your buddy knew you cared.... don't have to attend a funeral or even say goodbye....he knew... that's all that matters.... the fact you always remember his passing is tribute enough..... he knew...

And the strangest thing was when we saw him on the Friday, the day before he died, he was telling us how his little pet dog was not feeling well and would not leave his side, but followed him around the house like a shadow. The dog knew what was going on.