Mac, MII control arms are symmetrical, left or right... uppers will swap side for side, lowers will swap side for side, at least to my knowledge.
Dozer, I think you have a problem with relation to axle centerline.
Pictures are far from geometrically correct... that said, I believe your cross member is too far back and the spring hats are too far forward...
I suspect you need to correct for "plumb", where the centerline remains constant, but the upper and lower extremities rotate on the axle centerline...
If you determine axle centerline (bird's eye view) and mark it across the horizontal flats of the frame, that's your reference mark... find ride height and hang your cross member perfectly centered and perfectly vertical (90°) to your centerline mark. Place your spring hats on that same centerline mark and you should be in the ballpark for alignment.
What I'm suggesting, is you may be working from a "squared" axle line, when you should be working from a line plumb to the world. I don't know how to explain it any better.
I surely understand your frustration. It's complicated simplicity and I'd be happy to help if I can. (Again, you know my number...
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