zzrodder
It ain't grey hair, it's chrome!
Sounds like you've been doing the right things but it still shouldn't be getting that high while driving. From your description of the rad's location, it sounds like the crossmember is partially obstructing the airflow? If it cools down when the engine is going slower it sounds like an airflow problem --- how is the air ducted thru the grille to the rad? Is there a way for the air to go over or around the rad instead of thru it? Some shrouding in front of the rad to the grille opening may be in order...
Another possibility is that the lower rad hose (intake) may be collapsing as the engine revs up, especially if it is a soft hose or has somewhat kinked bends. You can get hoses that have a spiral wire like a spring inside to prevent that happening.
Another possibility is that the lower rad hose (intake) may be collapsing as the engine revs up, especially if it is a soft hose or has somewhat kinked bends. You can get hoses that have a spiral wire like a spring inside to prevent that happening.