Wow, that's a long time, but they have to get them up to a certain weight before they can come home. I forget how long our twins were in the incubators but I think it was a couple of weeks. I remember the first time the nurses brought out both of them for my wife and I to hold. I was scared as h***, I was afraid I was going to break him. He gave a sigh and quit breathing and I panicked and called the nurse .She said "Relax Dad, he is just napping !"
It's scary but it happens to premmies. We went in one morning when our kids were still being kept at the hospital and the nurse said "We almost lost Dan last night" ! He also had respiratory problems, but he pulled through and so will yours. We are praying for them every night. Please keep us posted.